Tag Archives: Mother’s Day

The Scent of Mother’s Day

Oy. The things I’m seeing about Mother’s Day.

Maybe the problem is that we’ve tried to selectively apply a version of sainthood to motherhood. Or vice versa.

Now bear with me because I don’t know a lot about sainthood, and I don’t have an exhaustive understanding of motherhood in full, but “exhaustion” and “motherhood” are two words that, if I am ever turned into a school worksheet, will be included in the word bank.

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May Month in Review — or Is It Just Me?

I realize I’m likely alone in this, but plopping Mother’s Day down in the middle of May was a pretty snarky thing to do.  The reasoning probably has something to do with springtime and flowers (and the history of the holiday itself is fascinating and a little tragic), but for Pete’s sake, people.

May is end-of-everything season. Continue reading May Month in Review — or Is It Just Me?

Mother’s Day 2016

We’re all doing the best we can.

It might just be my Facebook feed, but it seems the anti-Mother’s Day sentiments are abundant this year: It’s a Hallmark Holiday. It’s forced. It’s cruel to some. It’s insensitive. How dare you?


And those are legitimate.

This day is painful for many people. You can’t escape the carnations and brunches and hurt.

But 364 days a year, many of us mothers are told “You’re not enough.”

Not cool enough. Not smart enough. Not interesting enough. Not working enough. Not home enough. Not raising them well enough. Not taking enough “me” time. Not spending enough time with the children. Or the spouse. Or the friends. Not thin enough. Not ignoring societal messages enough. Not listening to them enough. Not original enough. Not pristine enough. Not tough enough.



Not right enough.

And some of these trickle in despite our best intentions, as we battle everyday to be the best we can, to be some sort of impossible standard bearer. To be a mother (or a mother-figure.)

Every day, we are powerful and we are helpless. We make millions of inflight adjustments. We don’t always know what we’re doing. The worry can be overpowering. We are tired — and not haha tired. Tired to the bones. We run hard. The mistakes feel immense. The giving is constant. The rewards — the wonderful people we are trying to send into the world and their millions of small joyful moments — are jack-in-the-boxes wrapped in a bow of delayed-gratification. The wrinkles and body aches and TMJ are gifts-with-purchase.

And it’s wonderful. And sometimes it’s not as wonderful, even though I’d never trade this for anything. I wanted them (and still do) more than anything in this world.

Today, for so many of us, is not about cards or brunch or flowers or some excessively sentimental Normal Rockwell myth.

It’s about having all of our mistakes kissed away. It’s about having a few hours where we don’t exactly feel like screw-ups. It’s about seeing our children wanting to celebrate us and our relationship. It’s about feeling that this choice to have and raise children (ours or someone else’s) was a good one and one that does good. It’s about embracing parenthood and childhood and, for a moment, enjoying the relationship without side-eye.

It’s about love, which is, going back to my second paragraph, is really all we all want.

We’re all doing the best we can.

Happy Day.

You are enough.