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I Feel Bad About My [*Waves Around Wildly*]

Book Review, Books, Inspiration, Reading, Recommendations, The Folio

What I Read January 2026

Thank you for being here. I mean that. There are, after all, many other things tugging at your sleeve for your attention. And yet, you’re moving your eyeballs down this screen while at least fourteen other tabs (literal/metaphorical) attempt to hijack your concentration. One of them is almost certainly bad news. One a recipe. One a person whisper-screaming about cortisol. Somewhere, something is on fire. Possibly a dumpster.

(You will probably not make that recipe, by the way. Close that tab.)

My point, if indeed I have one, is that focus is scarce. Heck, I’m having trouble focusing on this sentence I’m writing. The fact that you’re still here is either due to admirable determination or you’re experiencing a temporary failure of escape mechanisms. Or maybe you’re resting your thumb for a moment.

Still, here we are, clinging to the page like the mildly confused primates we are. Good for us!

Friend, I don’t need to tell you that January was awful. The news is a firehose of inhumanity. The weather has been making creative use of its worst instincts. People have been doing the same. We, the body politic, are fatigued and enraged. We’re cold. Our brains are pudding. It’s all just a grinding, cumulative awful.

As such, reading has been work this month. I’ve been bargaining, bribing, and staring at margins before turning pages. I reread the same passages multiple times and often still couldn’t tell you who anyone is or why they’re there. Are they in a room? A void? The DMV? (But I repeat myself.)

My brain, ever eager to help, kept suggesting alternatives to reading. Catastrophize! Scroll! Dissociate in the shower like a normal person! I know reading is good for me. My brain is in a big noping-out phase. Darn the puddingness of it.

It’s easy right now to feel like everything is stupid and terrible, and everyone is ridiculous, and we’re all trying to optimize ourselves into…I don’t know. What are we trying to optimize ourselves into this week?

ANYWAY, I read because I must and want to, and at some points it all opens up. I am not reading books right now to be transported. “Here” is fine. I know where everything is.

What I want andneed are books that affirm Yup, that’s a mess. Let’s poke it with a stick.

And I found some! Trust me, a lot of books were flung aside. There are scuff marks. SEND MAGIC ERASERS.

Nora Ephron (one of my January reads) reminds us that reading is both escape and the opposite of escape, a way to make contact with someone else’s mind when your own keeps short-circuiting.

In a moment when we keep mistaking performance for connection and proximity for community, good books feel like a refusal to join the grinding, cumulative, optimized, puddingish awful.

I’ll take it.

Which is all just to say, here are the books I enjoyed enough to finish this month:

  • On The Road by Jack Kerouac
  • I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman by Nora Ephron
  • Cat’s Cradle by Kurt Vonnegut
  • Then We Came to the End by Joshua Ferris

Note: For sanity and scale (mine, yours, and the internet’s), what follows are the openings of each review. Full versions are linked below.

On The Road by Jack Kerouac

On the Road by Jack Kerouac

On the Road is devoted to the idea that the journey matters more than the destination. Narrator Sal Paradise is happiest when he is on the go, scarcely letting the engine cool before thinking about his next departure. I, on the other hand, am happiest when I am on the couch, so it was hard to relate. Maybe this book hits differently for young men on the whole. Maybe it hits differently before you’ve learned that, no matter how fast you’re going, motion and purpose are not the same thing. On the Road spends a lot of time suggesting that they are.

Par exemple: “There was nowhere to go but everywhere” has done a lot of unpaid labor for On the Road for nearly seventy years. It promises freedom, transcendence, and meaning, preferably without responsibility, receipts, or a return time. In short, keep chugging and you will discover something profound.

Well, smack my jukebox and call me Fonzie.

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I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman by Nora Ephron

I Feel Bad About My Neck and Other Thoughts on Being a Woman by Nora Ephron

It’s been tricky to find books I want to read and then tricky to finish books I start. Not sure what I needed this month other than, pitifully, some validation. Specifically, smart, funny validation. And for this, Nora Ephron’s I Feel Bad About My Neck hit the spot while also inspiring me to write better. Or at least try to. I’m sure that brings some small relief to my intrepid band of readers.

Ephron notices what absolutely sucks and what absolutely does not suck and talks about it in great detail. She is irritated, observant, loving, and correct. These are qualities I respect.

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Cat’s Cradle by Kurt Vonnegut

Cat's Cradle by Kurt Vonnegut Jr.

The epigraph to Cat’s Cradle is a cheerful little threat. “Nothing in this book is true.”

What a nice way to say, Relax. I’m only going to describe the collapse of civilization. No need to tense up.

You should know that this is a funny book. You should also know that being funny does not stop it from being horrifying.

Vonnegut is often called a gateway author, and maybe that’s because often people read him young and then spend the rest of their lives trying to find that exact flavor again: smart, fast, funny, devastating. “Gateway” suggests he is the some sort of charming, goofy doorman waving you through toward Real Literature

Nonsense. He’s serious and brilliant and immediate. Besides, if anything is going to ruin your day, it should at least get to the point and have a sense of humor about it.

The vibe is University of Chicago, all angles and bells and theorems. Sharp intellect, unpretentious, but exacting and impatient.

In other words, the vibe is impolite, wild-haired brilliance.

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Then We Came to the End by Joshua Ferris

Then We Came to the End by Joshua Ferris

I do not believe in the concept of a “work family.” Families visit you in the hospital. Work sends an URGENT email while you’re in the hospital, then eliminates your position in Q3. The phrase “work family” exists so companies can feel moderately at-ease replacing compensation and boundaries with feel-good vibes. And yet, this is the sharp, pointy edge of Then We Came to the End. Offices still manage to feel intimate (and we, the public demanding to be entertained, love that. See: every workplace comedy ever.) We spend more time with our coworkers than with our friends. We know who drinks oat milk. We know who steals that oat milk. We know who cries in the bathroom. We know whose job we could probably do if things went sideways. Work dehumanizes people while demanding emotional, intellectual, and physical labor from them.

A lot of reviewers call Then We Came to the End a “workplace satire.” Yeah, sure, and a colonoscopy is “light touch diagnostics.” This book is about “business as usual,” where nothing is technically wrong, but everything feels wrong, and most of it probably is wrong on some level or another. Usually ethics.

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And there be the January reads. As always, I welcome any recommendations! Read any good books lately?

Buckets, Knuckles, and Hex Codes

Humor, Inspiration, Life and Other Existential Problems, Month in Review, Parenting, Writing, , ,

December (Not Quite the End of the Month) Month-in-Review

It’s been a year since I’ve done a month-in-review post. I’m sure you are all very excited to have me draw back the curtain again. Well, joke’s on you. Behind this curtain is a trove of canned goods and a mysterious bucket no one remembers buying and no one is willing to throw away. “Never discard a mysterious bucket” might be some sort of unspoken family rule. THAT joke is on me.

After this reasonless hiatus, I’m resurrecting the month-in-review because sometimes it’s useful to return to a familiar container and rattle around inside it for a bit. Will the month-in-review posts continue in 2026? MAYBE.

Before any sticklers jump into my mentions without even offering me a cookie, I am well aware that the month is not over.

However, many of you mentally end the year sometime in mid-November, based on how many “Wrap-ups” and “I’m ready for 2026” comments are floating around out there. Look, you do you, friend. I was taught to run through the finish line.

But, sure, we can call this the “Not Quite the End of the Month Month-in-Review.” Not fussy at all.

ANYHOO, Happy Holidays. Let’s begin with an injury.

Earlier this month, I busted my knuckle open (not a euphemism). A few people noticed and asked how it happened. “Fighting crime,” which no one believed. Then I said the untrue but plausible, “I was just walking around.” Everyone believed that. Thanks, people who know me.

(Between you and me, I used a little extra oomph putting on a sweater and slammed my hand into the door jamb after successfully locating the arm hole.)

Please don’t be freaky and ask for photos of my (admittedly sexy) busted knuckle. It’s hard to photograph your own hand while recovering from getting dressed all by myself vigilantism.

There were wonderful parts of December, for sure, despite my ability to get hurt by doing nothing and also by doing things. (See: colliding with furniture in my own house, ambient exhaustion, December.)

One of my sons has begun making Jeopardy! games for the family. In the last five weeks, he has made three.

These are not casual games, nor intended to make us feel good about ourselves or our inability to quickly access our knowledge base. These are utterly lawless events fueled by a natural understanding of humor that routinely takes us out.

The categories alone injured me once because I rolled off the couch laughing. (Note to all of my ex-boyfriends: I still got it!)

We’ve had Prehistoric Fish, Former FBI Director James Comey, and Shades of Red (a block of color labeled with its hex code). This so thoroughly aggravated my husband that the next game had the category Tints of Red. In one game, he created a category called Who’s That?, which involved identifying people from photos. The first image was of Millard Fillmore. The second was Dilbert. Two questions later: the same picture of Dilbert.

We considered ourselves lucky that the Dilbert questions were straightforward. Half the fun this kid has is in figuring out the most obtuse ways a question can relate to the category. And I will add that at least once each game is a question that simply says, “Touch the dog.” Which, yes, that is not a question, but we all run to Buddy like maniacs. He likes it. It’s got this vibe.

For my birthday, he shamelessly calibrated the game to some of my alleged areas of expertise, including Kurt Vonnegut, the family dog, Danish Butter Cookie Tins, as well as an entire category based on photographs of his school lunches.

Somehow, I lost.

Somehow, my husband won with a final score of –2400.

This game has it all: Intellectual chaos, hostile specificity, everyone yelling “WHAT IS GOING ON?” while the dog enjoys his celebrity and hopes Final Jeopardy is “Belly Rubs.” (It is not.)

So December has been largely survived up until this moment, and my knuckle is healing.

Does anyone know what that bucket is for?

Until we all figure it out, here are some

Splashes of Marvelous from December 2025:

  • Fellow Snarkians, I had no idea this was still a thing. I am delighted to be wrong. Entire stretches of my childhood were spent drooling over these guys.
  • If you ever have a chance to go see/hear the Chicago Gay Men’s Chorus, do it! I went to the Holly Dolly Christmas show and remained in an excellent mood for 2-3 business weeks.
  • It might technically be too late to prep for Jolabokaflod, but every day can be Jolabokaflod if your heart is pure. Or you feel like it. I’m making the rules now. If you need some ideas, I’ve got you.
  • Related, I would like to formally propose an evening where we gather around a fireplace, eat treats, and read. Silently. Shhhh. Let’s make this introverted bibliophile’s dream a reality. And if you talk, I’m cramming one of these in your mouth, and not gently.
  • This is the only type of “conversation piece” I’d ever want to wear.
  • The Best Simple Stuffing Recipe | Bon Appétit Trust me.
  • I baked three dozen cookies for school, another 900 dozen (give or take) for home. Emergency preparedness is important. This is why I have a small bag of sprinkles in my purse at all times. (True!)


After I sent those cookies off to school with my boys, one of them came home and brought me…a cookie. Not one I made, but a snickerdoodle. And before you have a problem with that, NO YOU DON’T.

  • The “two inches that were actually six” of predicted snow on 12/7. Insert jokes as you wish.

Well, what do you want? A cookie? (I may have several hundred dozen.)

Enjoy your week and watch your knuckles. (Maybe a euphemism).

You Must Be Fun at Parties

Creative non-fiction, Humor, Inspiration, Life and Other Existential Problems, Under 750, , , , ,

Notes from the Coat Closet

“You must be fun at parties” is usually shorthand for “you seem like someone who would scold a balloon, and I don’t enjoy you.” For me, it’s an oddly specific field note.

It’s been seven hours and fifteen decades since I last socialized with any regularity.

I once was, if not the life of the party, the CPR dummy of it: dragged out, asked if I’m okay, inflated briefly, then shoved back in a suitcase until needed again.

Socializing is a muscle, and mine is atrophied because I’ve been on the couch since 2010. Still, I now RSVP to invites aspirationally. I picture Q-and-As sparkling, snacks excellent, and my hair behaving.

In reality, I’m the guest eating chips and dip in a coat closet.

Walk through an event with me. Or near me. Or, better yet, around me:

I prep, of course.

Step one: test-drive some jokes. I am a dancing bear. Dancing bears must dance.

Step two: polish up an elevator pitch about my latest project, which could be the Not-Great American Novel, a nervous breakdown, or cupcakes.

Step three: get dressed (multiple times). Telling me the dress code is casual isn’t helping. Neither is tacking on a word to it. Business casual? You might as well say formal casual, tractor casual, or funeral casual. I choose an outfit fit for the launch of a 1974 space capsule.

My husband is thoroughly briefed: if my grin goes stiff or I start scanning for trap doors, swoop in. When we arrive at the event, he beelines toward a group earnestly debating the finer points of mulch. I, on the other hand, walk into a coat rack while I scan for friendly faces.

There are fifteen people gathered in polite clusters. Ten hold drinks. Four are deep in conversation. One considers the cheese platter.

Conversation zigzags like it has somewhere to be and no idea how to get there. Everyone is nodding, so I nod too. I can’t be the only weirdo not co-signing. Yes, the municipal composting program is complicated. Yes, Pilates is the only thing keeping Marcy sane. Yes, there’s an alarming shortage of teaspoons. I may have agreed to join a militia. I’m uncertain because I am now also considering the cheese platter, mesmerized by a sexy Kaukauna.

It is during these fun, funny, and utterly disjointed conversations the true language of the night is spoken: couples’ signals. A raised eyebrow means rescue me. A discreet wrist tap is don’t tell that story. A quick mime of wiping teeth translates to spinach. A pointed look says oh no, Backsplash Guy is here. It’s a whole conversation under the conversation. I love it.

Then it happens. No one talks for seven full seconds.

BEHOLD! I am the Once and Future Resuscitation Jackie! I’VE GOT THIS!

I mine for stories, giggle at punchlines, toss out “interesting, tell me more” like so many Mardi Gras beads. Folks oblige and share things about how they feel about their HOA (a cabal!), Trader Joe’s (went for the Steamed Pork & Ginger Soup Dumplings, almost got killed in the parking lot!), and one neighbor who lost a finger to a salad spinner (Legend!). It’s great.

If I ask too many questions, I’ll be less talk show and more Law and Order: Social Victims Unit. No one wants to feel like they’re about to be cuffed and read their rights in front of the canapés. So, I watch for any quick eyerolls that say, Help, I’m trapped with this sentient game of 20 Questions wearing a zip-front A-line number.

Meanwhile, my thrives-at-parties husband floats by like a genial sea creature to refresh his drink. I blink in Morse code that I’m running out of questions about bird bath maintenance. I think he’s going to tap in! He does not.

So I persist, though out of steam.

Midway through a discussion about vacation rentals, my strapless bra, believing it was meant for greater things, heads south with dreams of becoming a belt. I do what anyone would do: try to harness it by squeezing my arms to my side, smile like nothing’s wrong, finish my drink, and plot my escape.

Bra somewhere around my thighs, I waddle into the coat closet for an adjustment and some crackers and dip I’ve strategically placed in my pockets for just such an emergency.

Socializing remains an extreme sport for which I am wildly unfit. Will I do it again? Absolutely. Bring on the Kaukauna.